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Dating & Premarital Counseling in Charlotte, NC.

Dr. Aleida Heinz, PhD in Human Sexuality. Board Certified Sexologist. AASECT Certified. | 26+ years of clinical experience. Note: Services provided are for counseling and coaching only. Not medical treatment. No nudity or physical contact.

Dating & Premarital Counseling is designed for individuals and couples who are dating, living together, or considering long-term commitment, and who want to make one of the most important decisions of their lives—choosing a life partner—with clarity, intention, and emotional maturity.

This service goes beyond attraction and chemistry. While desire and attraction matter, long-term relational health depends on deeper psychological factors: emotional regulation, communication patterns, values alignment, intimacy skills, and the ability to sustain desire over time.

Grounded in psychology, sex therapy, and relationship science, this work helps individuals and couples:

  • Understand how attraction, attachment, and desire interact
  • Develop self-regulation and co-regulation skills essential for long-term partnership
  • Learn how to build emotional, erotic, and sexual intimacy intentionally
  • Identify unconscious relational patterns that influence partner choice
  • Strengthen communication skills ↗ before commitment, not after crisis
  • Explore expectations around love, sex, desire, roles, and future planning

    Dating & Premarital Counseling supports couples in learning how to think clearly while feeling deeply—balancing emotional connection, erotic compatibility, and psychological readiness. The focus is not on perfection, but on awareness: understanding how to nurture intimacy, manage conflict, protect desire, and grow together over time.
  • This service is ideal for those who want to enter marriage or long-term partnership prepared rather than hopeful, with the tools to build a relationship where emotional safety, erotic vitality↗, and communication can evolve together.
  • This service is offered through couples counseling tailored to each couple’s unique emotional and relational experience.

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