Sexology
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Infidelity in the Digital Age: Why Good People Cross Lines
Infidelity in the digital age rarely begins with the intention to betray. More often, it starts with a conversation that feels alive, a connection that feels effortless, or a sense of being seen again. Online spaces amplify opportunity, speed, and emotional intensity, allowing desire to awaken without reflection or relational containment. When erotic expression has…
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When Desire Turns Elsewhere: The Psychology of Infidelity
Infidelity rarely begins with the intention to betray. In clinical practice, it most often emerges when desire has no place to be expressed within the relationship. Many people involved in affairs still love their partners deeply; what is missing is not commitment, but access to erotic aliveness. When desire becomes inaccessible—silenced by routine, emotional overload,…
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The Psychology of Erotic Energy: Why Sexual Desire Is Essential for Mental Health
The Psychology of Erotic Energy. Erotic energy isn’t a luxury — it’s one of the strongest predictors of psychological aliveness. Research across neurobiology and positive psychology shows that desire activates the brain’s vitality pathways, erotic imagination enhances resilience and creativity, and sensual expression reduces stress while boosting well-being. A healthy erotic identity strengthens confidence, self-esteem,…
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Desire, Drive, and Arousal: Understanding the Three Systems That Shape Our Erotic Life
We often use the word desire to describe experiences that belong to three different systems: sexual drive, arousal, and true erotic desire or libido. And when these are confused, people begin to believe they are “broken.” They’re not. Drive is a biological impulse. Arousal is the body’s reaction. But desire is something entirely different— it…
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The Enemies of Desire: Why We Stop Wanting
Most couples don’t lose desire — they lose access to it. Stress, emotional exhaustion, resentment, and over-familiarity don’t destroy desire; they simply cover it. When we understand these hidden forces, we stop blaming ourselves or our partners and begin to reclaim the space where desire can breathe again. Dr. Aleida Heinz
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The 7 Erotic Languages: How We Learn to Speak Desire
Desire doesn’t disappear — it becomes inaccessible when partners stop speaking each other’s erotic language. The 7 Erotic Languages reveal how each person experiences desire through their senses, imagination, and self-perception. When we learn to understand these internal languages, desire becomes clearer, intimacy deepens, and relationships rediscover the aliveness they thought they had lost. Dr.…
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Why Love Isn’t Enough in Long-Term Relationships
After more than two decades working with individuals and couples, I’ve learned that desire doesn’t disappear—it becomes inaccessible. Love offers safety, closeness, and stability, while desire needs imagination, space, and aliveness. When we confuse the quieting of desire with a lack of love, we misread our relationships, our partners, and ourselves. Understanding the psychology of…
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Love or Passion: What Matters More in a Relationship?
Love or Passion: What Matters More in a Relationship?” Love and passion—two forces that shape the heart of every relationship. One provides security, trust, and a deep emotional bond, while the other fuels desire, excitement, and an undeniable spark. But which is more important? The truth is, a fulfilling relationship isn’t about choosing between love…
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What Is a Good Love and Why Is It Essential in Our Lives?
What is a good love, and why does it transform our lives? A good love goes beyond fleeting emotions; it is a refuge that heals our soul, strengthens our mind, and revitalizes our body. When we live a relationship rooted in respect, understanding, passion, and mutual support, we find not only happiness but also holistic…
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The Art of Sensual Communication
Erotic communication goes far beyond words—it’s a dialogue of the senses. Whether it’s the captivating allure of a lover’s glance, the whispered intimacy of soft words, or the electrifying connection of touch, discovering your unique erotic language can transform how you connect with yourself and your partner. . In my Spanish version “Los 7 Lenguajes…